Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Roll With The Punches
A punch usually is referred to as a delicious fruity drink or being hit in the face with someone else's fist. When the punching bag talks about "punches" It's usually not the same thing.
When I refer to a "punch" it's those little obstacles that get in the way, those things that bring you down and make you feel icky. When someone makes fun of you - that's a punch, when your work gets criticized- that's a punch. So the question is, how do we fight back all of these punches?
I entered my Women's Fiction manuscript in a contest a few months ago and just got the results...needless to say they weren't pretty. (And a couple of them said that I have a better YA voice than Women's Fiction..snort) Yeah, it hurt, these judges were saying the opposite things that my critique partners and friends had told me So did I cry? Did I give up on writing completely?
So what did I do? Well I told my husband and one of my critique partners that this was my last hurrah for MY PAPER HEART. I stopped querying over the summer and I said if this contest doesn't do anything for me then I'm shelving it. It's kind of sad since I really did love this story and these characters, but it was also a hard market to sell with a college aged protagonist and a story that's been told before, but just with my take on it.
HOW TO DATE AN ALIEN has NOT been shelved, that manuscript is just being revised. I sent my manuscript to a friend just to "read in her spare time" and she actually got it back to me with revision notes and said that she loved the concept. (An agented writer friend, don't know if she wants her name posted, so it's not). I was actually surprised to get notes back and am SO excited to have writer friends that believe in me as a writer!
Even if HOW TO DATE AN ALIEN doesn't get me an agent or a publishing contract, I'm not going to stop. I love writing and I think I'm pretty good at it (who cares what a few judges in a contest say?). The road to publication is paved in rejection letters and I'm ready to do some walking!
How do you deal with rejections and your "punches"? Do you need a punching bag of your own?