Monday, May 9, 2011

Love don't come easy

Yes, it's a cheesy song and, yes, I've been gone for awhile.  But in celebration of yesterday being mother's day (and my return to try and blog again) I thought I would share with everyone something that I've learned from my daughter....the things that you love don't come easy.

In October of 2009 I left work very sick and found out that I had Polycystic ovary syndrome.  My gynecologist put me on medication and told me that I might have trouble conceiving.  I was engaged and was devastated that after getting married that I could possibly not have children.  I could have given up at that point, wallowed in my own self pity and started looking at adopting, but I didn't.  Instead I lost weight, took medication and did what I needed to do increase my chances of having a child (even though I thought they were slim.)

And then low and behold I did get pregnant.  Yeah...those people that say shows like Teen Mom are making people want to get pregnant, all of these teen girls need to just hang out with a pregnant woman before they decide they want a child fashion accessory.  I was tired, nauseous, and the size of a small house-- I just wanted the baby out of me and then she came.

I love my daughter, but the first two weeks of motherhood are HARD.  You're sore, tired, and both you and baby are getting used to each other so nothing comes easy...I honestly didn't think I could do it.

But now my daughter is almost a month old and we're both still alive, so it's definitely a plus.

What does this have to do with writing?  Or anything really?  Well the other day I got an answer back from an agent that has had my manuscript for awhile.  She said my writing was good, but the story was just too light for her.  I could have cried, I could have said it was time to give up, but then my wise husband said something.  "The more that you work for something the more that you appreciate it."

Which is SO true!  I had to work to have our daughter, I had to work hard those first few weeks of her life, and I've been working SO hard to get published the past two years.  If you really love something then you'll work for it.  Publication may not come easy, but if you love something then it's worth working for.

What hasn't come easy for you?  What makes you want to push farther?  Doesn't my daughter look like she is innocent in that picture?  (She actually cried her entire newborn photo session...those two weeks can kill you.)  And have you entered my contest for a signed copy of The Ghost and the Goth?  (Ends Friday!)


  1. What a beautiful photo! Truly gorgeous!

  2. Love the picture! And, yeah, getting an agent can be tough but I figure, I'm never going to stop writing so there is no reason to stop trying.

  3. She's adorable, Magan :) Sorry about your manuscript, but your husband's totally right... keep on trucking!

  4. You have a wise husband. I'm sorry that your manuscript was rejected, but just take this stumbling block as a stepping stone.
    Your daughter is so adorable in that photo, BTW!

  5. I thought that picture was one of those model babies! She's beautiful! I've had some hard rejections lately too. It's really tough, but right now I still have the faith that all of this will be worth it someday. I hope I always feel that way because I know that, in many ways, it doesn't get much easier even after publication.


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